Counterweight 3: Improve psychological resilience
Change unfounded beliefs.
Foster a positive thinking atmosphere within the family.
Protect children’s psychological resilience: external resources (supportive relationships, high expectations, opportunities for participation (SHP)) and internal resources (sense of efficacy, sense of belonging, sense of optimism (CBO)).
Parents are becoming more aware of the unmet needs behind their children’s emotions. Knowing how to foster positive emotions within the family dynamic enables parents to become their children’s most substantial source of support. This helps children find direction when they are lost, muster strength in adversity, see hope in despair, and become masters of their own emotions!
This was an engaging and engrossing lecture for parents. Some were taking photographs for future reference, as others nodded in agreement, while others raised their hands to ask questions. They all expressed that they had learned much from this lecture.
Some parents commented, “I now realize that children’s lack of patience or ease of temperament is not because they don’t want to control their emotions, but because their brains are not yet fully developed. We should offer them more patience and support.”
Others remarked, “I never realized the enormous impact the family ecosystem has on children. I’ve indeed been too strict in my demands but seldom responsive to my child’s needs. Moving forward, I intend to be more attentive and listen patiently to what my child has to say to better understand how to help them.”
Others added, “Professor Cai’s sharing of the Visual Cliff experiment and the Rhesus Monkey Surrogate Mother experiment inspired me a lot. What children need is warmth, support, protection, and acceptance from their parents—not coldness, rejection, punishment, or ridicule. Feeling supported by their parents can help them cope with a wider array of pressures and complex situations.”
One parent had this to say: “Those two images were absolutely striking! Every situation has its pros and cons. We should guide our children to see the positive side of things, help them believe that they can succeed and that their future is bright. Make them feel that we are here to care for and support them. This way, even pressure can turn into a motivating force, enhancing the child’s adaptability.”
The behaviours and emotions we observe in our children
are merely the tip of the iceberg.
Their genuine internal needs and desires
are hidden far beneath, in the deeper parts of this iceberg.
They require our patient accompaniment to explore these depths.
Afterwards, our “Psychological Cottage” Psychological Counselling Centre will be offering a regular series of parental psychology lectures. Please scan the QR code below to fill out your specific needs, and we will consider everyone’s suggestions to provide appropriate psychological lectures.
Let’s join hands in navigating the path of love, empowering our children for a healthy and joyful growth!
