科学全面的性教育，可以帮助孩子们更好地了解自己的身体，学会保护自己。1月初我校 “心灵小筑”心理辅导中心邀请到育见爱性教育创始人、联合国人口基金会与生殖健康项目专家顾问、资深性教育培训师、华东师范大学教育学硕士——陈静老师为五年级的孩子们开设了一系列满满赋能的性教育课程。
主题一：生命起源与生理卫生
陈老师以“我是从哪里来的”这个问题带领孩子们在欢快的氛围中探索，孩子们更加了解精子和卵子，也理解了生命的繁衍；在性教育玩偶演示生孩子的过程中，更加明确了自己从何而来。
接着，陈老师在讲解男生和女生身体的不同时，孩子们认识到了自己隐私部位的重要性，知道如何保护自己的隐私部位，学会了保持隐私部位的清洁和健康。对于自己不同时期的身体变化也有了更深入的认识，能更坦然地面对自己成长中一系列的心身变化。
最后，陈老师以一个视频展示了生命的诞生，孩子们弄清了自己生命的来源，对生命更加敬畏，更加懂得珍爱生命、感恩父母。并在探讨“精子和卵子是怎么结合的”时，知道要遵守社会性规范，学会保护自己的隐私。
主题二：性安全与自我保护
陈老师和孩子们一起探讨防范性侵的话题，通过真实的案例和“性侵犯大判断”、“谁有可能会伤害隐私部位？”等游戏，帮助孩子们了解了什么是性侵犯，意识到什么人会实施性侵犯，学会了判断不同类型的性侵犯和自我保护的技巧和方法，建立了危机意识。同时，还了解了哪些行为是侵犯他人隐私的行为，知道这些行为所需承担的法律后果。
那么，该怎么遵守社会性规范呢？陈老师提醒孩子们要遵守三“不”原则。
不随便说：如果有问题，家里讨论。
陈老师还教孩子们一旦识别性侵犯的信号，就应立即报警，采用NOT原则，远离伤害。
O指OFF，应尽快离开侵害人所在的空间，逃到人多安全的地方去；
T指TALK，跟信任的成人最好是自己的父母说出来，描述得越清晰越好；
最后，还要提醒孩子一点，不管这个人是什么身份，再也不要和TA单独相处。
如果不幸遭遇身体类性侵，需要保留物证和身体证据，及时寻求帮助/报警，在家长的陪伴下到正规医院检查，并寻求心理医生的帮助。
最后，陈老师针对比较隐秘的网络性侵害，教会孩子们网络的安全指南——“四不一要”。
要告诉：第一时间告诉信任的家长或老师
在轻松安全的氛围中，孩子们从开始的羞怯、不好意思变得越来越坦然，都很踊跃地提出自己的疑惑。
“网络上怎么判别对方的好坏？如果知道对方是坏人该如何处理？”
“如果上网时，发现了有性骚扰画面或视频的浏览器该怎么举报？”
陈老师都一一悉心地给予了解答。孩子们过去尴尬不愿意直面的疑惑也在今天的讲座中有了清晰的认识，直呼今天的性教育课程太值了。
I think today’s sex education course was very meaningful. It allowed me to learn about topics and knowledge not covered in regular classes. I learned that boys have 300 million sperm and girls have eggs in their bodies and when they combine, life can be formed and offspring can be produced. I also understood that sexual harassment, indecency and rape all fall under sexual abuse. As minors, we should not commit these acts and we need to protect ourselves.
I used to think that sexual abuse was only physical. In today’s sex education class, I learned that there could also be sexual harassment online, such as sending pictures or videos that expose private parts.
Teacher Chen was humorous! We gained knowledge in a comfortable environment. I learned how to maintain proper behaviour and language, to respect others and to avoid negative consequences. I also learned about the differences between the genders and how to protect myself and others.
After listening to the sex education psychology course, I understood where we come from and why each of us is unique. I realized the value of life. At the same time, I have a deeper understanding of the importance of safety during puberty and a new awareness of protecting my privacy. It was a fulfilling experience!
When I learned that I was the one who stood out from three hundred million sperm and successfully combined with an egg to be born, a sense of pride naturally arose! When hearing about those cases of sexual abuse shared by the teacher, I felt deeply saddened. If only they knew how to protect themselves using the correct methods and legal tools when encountering sexual abuse and to quickly get away from those who violated them and call the police. Wouldn’t there be fewer tragedies in this world?
“Where do we come from?” The teacher asked this question. Some classmates said they came from their mother’s armpit, some said they were picked up from the trash and others said they were given away with phone credit top-ups, which I guess were jokes. I heard from my mom that I was a caesarean section baby, which means I was taken out through an incision on my mom’s belly with the help of surgery. I think my mom is great! Each of us should also be proud of ourselves because we are the ‘long-distance race’ winners, the best ones. Apart from marvelling at the miracle of life, I think it’s not easy for us to be born healthy and we should cherish life. The teacher also explained the differences between boys and girls. Although I felt a bit embarrassed, I listened carefully because my body is also undergoing some amazing changes. Before, I could only talk about these changes with my mom but today, I can openly and scientifically discuss them with everyone, which feels great.
In the past, I always thought that sex topics were embarrassing and difficult to talk about, to the point where I was reluctant to learn even a bit about it. But in today’s sex education class, Teacher Chen’s humorous language helped us to have a correct understanding of our bodies and how to protect ourselves. She educated us about the three types of sexual abuse — rape, indecency, and sexual harassment —and taught us how to respond.
Today, I listened to a series of incredibly wonderful and interesting sex education courses. They allowed me to understand sexual knowledge more carefully and scientifically, and made me think more deeply about how to better protect myself and others from sexual abuse. I hope there will be more such sex education courses in the future!
We hope that parents can also openly discuss related topics at home and provide scientific sex education for their children to help them establish a healthy concept of sex!
