Understanding primary school students and become their best helpers
We always want to give our children the most love and to be their greatest helpers; but sometimes we find that our child remains in the same place, despite the time spent supporting them. With a little scolding, children are not motivated enough; with too much scolding, children are impatient. With a little guidance, children are uncontrolled; with too much guidance, children rely on parents all the time. So, how can we help our children properly?
On October 27, our school hoped to find an answer by inviting Ms. Li Jinghui; a National Second-Level psychological consultant, career planner, academic leader of the third and fourth term of psychology, chief psychological consultant of Qingpu District Student Psychological Development Counseling Center and top psychological talent of Qingpu District.
Firstly, through an abundance of cases, Ms. Li led parents to approach their children patiently and understand their common psychological problems, external manifestations and the reasons for these problems:
1. Learning problems
2. Cognitive-behavioral problems
3. Interpersonal problems
4. Adolescent problems
5. Attention deficit problems; Attention deficit and hyperactivity disorder; Children developmental retardation
6. Network obsession
7. Mood disorders
Later, according to “Erickson’s eight-stage theory of personality development”, Ms. Li led the parents in understanding the psychological and emotional development characteristics of children, psychological needs and growth of children of all ages, and discussed several principles of family education with the parents, namely; to create a warm family atmosphere. Mothers can guide their children well while giving the children warmth and security; fathers become a strong model for support and learning to the children. Only in this way can we encourage our children to learn and grow better!
Understand the adolescent and become their bosom friends
We always want to give our children the most love,But as the children grow older,We find that our good and obedient children have drifted away from us,No more common language, a lot of arguments.
When children’s adolescence arrives, and parents encounter a special period of “rebellion”, resistance, and even conflict, how can they get along and communicate with their children?
From the perspective of psychology, Ms. Li Jinghui led parents through experiencing lively activities and recommend the following; patiently approach adolescents, understand the psychological and emotional development of the different ages of children, know how to understand their emotions, completely accept the emotions, know how to communicate effectively with their children and to give them the love they need.
Hope we can all become our children’s friends and find the key to open our children’s hearts. Together, with the children, we overcome any misunderstanding and figure out the “puzzle” to meet a better self!